Jock you are awesome buddy for the offer of lending me your own spanner!Hey bud, i got one off ebay, heres the link
Newly listedVW / AUDI / SEAT / SKODA haldex filter service tool 46mm spanner AT466
or depending when you need it by i could post mine to you if you cover the postage costs.
I remembered that dad has a 4WD audi quattro, so i have spoke to him and his willing to go halves on one
Thanks again tho for the offer, so kind of you